Love is not a scam

Na we dey search for perfection; when we clearly know it is an illusion

Hi, Beloved!

Even though I somewhat feel quite nostalgic about writing at this time (I don’t know why, but like, I’ve always believed ‘I’ll make efforts at being fine and I’ll be fine!.

So worry not, brethren!). Plus I promised we’ll explore stuff together, right?. Yeah, let’s get to it then.

Recently, I have been wondering about quite some stuff (basically abstract ones like emotions).

And today I have come with questions and possibly a bit of clarification about these things as it occurs to me.

“Loving You Nah Scam O (Oh I Dun Try)!”. Wasn’t that what Kizz Daniel yelled at the beginning of the hit single collaboration with the OBO (Davido) in the song titled “One ticket”.

While that song might have blown big and as usual, we've danced and vibed all along through it. But a recurring question, that’s popped my face once again while I heard that song is;

“Is love truly a scam?;

or is it a sham with the glory of truth?;

or the meaning to it is just what it is?”

Thinking about it, there are times love would surface around and you would think you had it all laid down, that nothing could ever go wrong, but then again, you're wrong.

It all happens so fast that you seem so surprised about the way things turned out, you were so in love but it didn't work out, you almost fixed that relationship but you didn't.

Regardless of the struggle,s you went through to be accepted, a little gesture of acceptance would have sufficed but you might never get it.

And then again you’re back to you living all by yourself and everything all around you is just about love.

Walking up to your street; you’ll come across some lovey-dovey birds, deciding to sit in your house thinking you’re safe but a little peep through your window at all times shows nothing but the love activities of several others; you won’t even want to enter social media because that’s the height of it…).

“Haven’t we all concluded: Love is a scam, then what are you all doing? is all you just want to scream!”

Anyways, Maybe I think love is not a scam. However, you can get scammed when looking for love. What do you think?

Think of love, the same way you think of wealth.

Love is a lot like wealth. If you hope to get wealthy quickly, fast, and in a hurry, just like someone famous you heard of, chances are you will get scammed, or end up committing some crime.

Well, that’s not to say if you hope to get wealthy slowly, just like people you don’t know of, you’ll be wealthy legitimately (same as love; there is no timeline or manual).

The most common “love scam” that people go through is this:

Often, one person may have the looks/beauty/spirit, the other has the riches/means/brain.

They then come together to trade (claiming they love each other), and a few years down the line, they realize they didn’t love each other.

When that happens, one of them walks away. When they walk away they aren’t walking away from the person they thought they loved.

Instead, they are walking away from the trade they did a few weeks, months, or years ago - to make another one - thinking it’s the real love.

That’s always the case when the relationship is based on too much personal interest (greed, lust, and covetousness).

Anyways, if you’re in love currently (best of luck; we’re rooting for you) and if you belong to the other tent, like myself (best of luck to you too; we’re equally rooting for you too).

I’ll leave today preaching self-love above all. It is a lovable soul that finds true (non-scam) love.

“It was when you realized that no matter who left, you would always stay. That no matter who hurt you, you would find a way to heal again. You'd always be there for yourself. That's when you learned what self-love meant. It was you and it was always going to be you in the end”

- Ruby Dhal”

Yes, I know that you are probably hearing about self-love for the umpteenth time.

But breathe, let the words speak to you.

Think of those times you wiped your tears, times you picked up yourself and wrapped your arms around your chest offering yourself comfort.

Think of those moments you muttered ‘we move' even though you were scared, hurt, and uncertain of the future. 

Till some other time,

Love❤ & Light💡, always.